Five Steps Necessary to Save Your Relationship by Valentines Day

Each year thousands of “loving” couples split up over the Christmas Holidays, many times without one of the lovers aware it is coming. If you are the recipient of this unwelcome Christmas gift you need to be aware of your options. Quite possibly you thought of this romance as just a casual roll in the hay, at which point you need do nothing except get on with your life. However, there are more than a few of these partners who believed they were involved with the love of their life and are desperate to reconcile. These are the people who will benefit from a few suggestions.

(1) A primary tool in your reconciliation quest is objectivity. Rather than spend your evenings crying over spilled milk you need to gather your wits and analyze what went wrong. Dissect this relationship and figure out what happened. How did your actions (or lack of) affect your love life enough that you are now sleeping alone? What did your lover do (or not) that acted as the wedge to force you apart? This is not the time to be wimpy with your thoughts. Deciding what how and when was wrong will be your first brick in laying the foundation for your renewed love life.

(2) Make your relationship a priority in your life. When your homework in step #1 is completed it probably will be obvious that this loving relationship did not always come first in the lives of the lovers. One or the other (usually both) developed the habit of placing this love on the “back burner” of their day and this neglect allowed decay. So if your decision is to rebuild this little love nest then start now and begin to give it the attention it deserves. Do not take your love for granted, when you give closeness and display tenderness it will be returned and your love will flourish.

(3) Avail yourself to this relationship 100%. In no way does this imply that you cannot have a life but it definitely means that your life should be this love. A love relationship between two people is not a part time job. You will never be able to discover the true depth of your love until you look for it! Love is grand! Go ahead, dive in and start swimming. You will only be able to take from your relationship in equal amounts to that which you put into it!

(4) Be lovable. Somewhere within your ego lies a bit of personality that allowed your lover to initially fall for you. Find it and set it free. If you have become a bit arrogant, standoffish, or selfish then get over it. Supposedly you have decided that this relationship is repairing. So if you have relaxed enough to allow unappealing traits to poke their evil head out then get rid of them. If necessary ask your best friend to point out a failure or two and then correct them. It is up to you to make yourself appealing to your love; they can only accept or reject what you present to them.

Quite probably a high number of the relationships that are annually allowed to fail need not have. If your heart tells you that your significant other is the special one that you want to spend the rest of your life with then go for it. Just remember that the love you take is equal to the love you make!